What I do for you

We arrange a meeting at your home in Münster and the surrounding area or wherever you want, to which you can also come accompanied. You then tell me about this person. What made her or him tick, what did he or she like, what you loved him or her for? I will also ask questions myself so that my speech can sound different from a CV: What were this person's dreams and aspirations? What were his or her happiest moments, what moments are unforgettable? It is important to me to engage 100 per cent with you and your memories. In order to be able to write an individual and at the same time warm and sophisticated speech for the farewell of your loved one. In terms of tone, I will tailor it exactly to your feelings and to what suits you and the situation best.

I am also happy to use my experience to help you with the practicalities. You may also want me to advise you on the whole process and choice of music for the funeral service.

On the day of the funeral

I am on site early and coordinate with the cemetery staff or the funeral director. I give my speech exactly where we have previously agreed. Afterwards, I go with you to the grave or urn site and say a few final words there. I will support you if you want me to, but I will also stay in the background if I feel that is what you would prefer. I see myself as the person at your side who will guide you safely and sensitively through the entire process of the funeral service and who will be there for you at all times during it.

Funeral oration during your lifetime

If you want to make provisions for the time after your death, I can also write your eulogy or obituary while you are still alive. This has the advantage that your relatives do not have to worry about it after your death. I will hand over this speech or obituary to you and you can then tell me whether I should make any changes. After that, you can decide for yourself what to do with it. A speaker other than myself can deliver it when the time comes, or you can attach this eulogy or obituary to a funeral order. In any case, you keep the reins of action in your hands and can decide for yourself what will be said about you later - and what not.

What makes a good funeral speech?

If you ask ten funeral orators, each one will probably say something different. But for me it is quite clear: the more personal a funeral oration is, the better it is. In order for a speech to be personal, the funeral speaker must first make intensive enquiries about the deceased person, i.e. she must speak at length with the bereaved and ask the right questions. For me, it goes without saying that I will do this. That is the standard I have for my work. You will not find any passages in my speech that are interchangeable and could also be incorporated into other speeches. My speech will be exclusively about the person you are now accompanying on his or her final journey through life.